Your daughter is getting married, Congrats! Start the lists there’s so many things to do. Questions for you like…Can you help me mom? How much is that? It’s something borrowed, something blue…and what else? But being the mother of the bride (MOB) is not just being an ATM or encyclopedia on weddings it’s an intricate piece of the “wedding puzzle”, which now…you have to play. These days a bride usually has their own visions and ideals for their big day but every now and again the mother has to be there for the 32654016 dress fittings and cake tastings and place setting choices.
I should create a list and publish it on “How to be a Mother of The Bride”…although I’m sure there’s one somewhere out there! Here are a few things I’ve learned on my adventures with brides and their moms.
- Be the cheerleader. Don’t be too opinionated; just give enough advice to seem like you’re the wise momma guru.
- Discuss the budget. In order to plan a wedding a budget must be set in place before you can do anything else.
- Go with your daughter to all of those bridal boutiques and try on as many dresses until she finds the one that she loves, if she’s lucky…you might pay for it too! (Note: if the dress she loves is over the budget you set, try to see if the budget can be moved around. Spend less on something not as important)
- If she wants you to help research venues, florists, caterers, hotels. Do it with a smile :)
- MOST IMPORTANTLY....MOMS:
- Choose your mother-of-the-bride dress because it takes 10-12 weeks not including time you WILL need to alter it.
- Choose a dress that fits your body type and also accommodates your fashion sense.
---FORMAL DRESS WEAR IS USUALLY 2 sizes bigger than your normal dress size. (for example: if I wear a size 10 dress, I would most likely wear a size 14 formal wear dress!)
- Pick a color that looks good with your skin tone and can play with the bridesmaid colors. (CAUTION: STAY AWAY from pastels; choose darker jewel tones or neutral colors!!!)
- Let the mother-of-the-groom know what designer, color and style dress you chose and if possible send her a swatch of the fabrics and/or pictures of you in it so she can find a dress that will be similar to yours.
- NOTE: Jasmine Bridal has a MOB’s collection that has so many different pieces within it. The Jade & Jade Couture Collections have a large selection of dresses with shawls/jackets/shrugs, flattering materials, wide variety of sizes from 2-26 and colors that will make any MOB feel like a million bucks!(we carry these Jade designs along with many others)
So keep this in mind…Mom’s are a valuable piece to a bride’s puzzle and if you pay heed to those tips I listed you should enjoy your experience as that important role. Your daughters' know how important you are and even though they might get “the bridal complex” A.K.A “Bride-zilla syndrome” they are lucky to have such amazing mothers! REMEMBER: Always stay encouraging and positive!!
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